When I read Proverbs 27:18 (He who tends the fig tree will eat its fruit; and he who cares for his master will be honored), I automatically thought of it in application to a wife with her husband. That was a new perspective on that, but a helpful one, I think. So many women gripe about their husband's inadequacies while never remembering to apply God's wisdom to the situation. Tend o the husband (according to his wishes), and it will more likely produce the kind of relationship hoped for. Trying to grab hungrily for honor always backfires. Letting go of the desire for it is the only hope of having it.